Donal O Leary is a health advocate with so much knowledge, inspiration and wisdom that will help us see our lives more clearly. This episode is not to be missed!
Here are some of Donal's insights and suggestions: (See transcript for more)
We are surviving out of our own pain. A lot of it is avoidance.
If you keep running, you might never catch up with yourself.
Busyness isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
The ego is an artificial imaginary construction. It keeps us disconnected.
We are always connected. What we need to do is see through the illusion of disconnection.
As a result of conditioning, we feel we need to be validated by something external, by what we do, what we have, by what we know, by how many likes we have on facebook and we are constantly looking for external validation and it’s never ever going to be found there.
Our value is in our being, we are to be respected valued and treasured for our being, no other reason, not for our academic or sporting success. Anything else is a breathing ground for insecurities.
It’s possible to be totally happy for no reason whatsoever. It’s not dependent on position or possession. It doesn’t require anything at all.
Wanting more is an attempted compensation a distraction from an internal void. It can never succeed.
When we are distracted, we cannot see anything.
What we think we see is a projection. What most people see is their internal projection of what the person is like rather that who is really there.
All suffering is avoidable and unnecessary.
There’s what happened and the story we tell ourselves about ourselves about what happened.
Guilt is about what we’ve done or haven’t done, shame is about who we are and who we’re not.
Resources mentioned:
Alan Watkins – How to be brilliant every day (Emotions and feelings)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q06YIWCR2Js
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_fFattg8N0
Brene Brown
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
Vulnerability is a strength not a weakness.
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We are surviving out of our own pain. A lot of it is avoidance.
If you keep running, you might never catch up with yourself.
Busyness isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
The ego is an artificial imaginary construction. It keeps us disconnected.
We are always connected. What we need to do is see through the illusion of disconnection.
As a result of conditioning, we feel we need to be validated by something external, by what we do, what we have, by what we know, by how many likes we have on facebook and we are constantly looking for external validation and it’s never ever going to be found there.
Our value is in our being, we are to be respected valued and treasured for our being, no other reason, not for our academic or sporting success. Anything else is a breathing ground for insecurities.
It’s possible to be totally happy for no reason whatsoever. It’s not dependent on position or possession. It doesn’t require anything at all.
Wanting more is an attempted compensation a distraction from an internal void. It can never succeed.
We are looking in the wrong place. It takes a bit of waking up and deeper awareness to see that what the external world tells us, is not what to do. Whatever the world tells us, believe the opposite and you will be closer to the truth.
When we are distracted, we cannot see anything.
What we think we see is a projection. What most people see is their internal projection of what the person is like rather that who is really there.
You cannot love what you judge, including yourself.
We see through the prism of our attitudes, beliefs and conditioning. We do not see what is there. A prism distorts.
Our realities are subjective.
Education is about being complying, non-questioning, obedient, units not of the society but of the economy.
Informational learning is more and more stuff to learn. It’s memorisation and regurgitation. Transformational education is more about self-knowledge. Shedding light in what was previously a blind spot. How one sees and experiences the world rather than just information.
“Enlightenment is nothing more than the complete absence of resistance to what is.” ― Adyashanti
Acceptance and inclusion - When you exclude someone, one is only excluding oneself.
When we overly attached to anything, we reduce ourselves to a thought. We are a wave looking for the ocean.
The wave that knows it’s part of the ocean is a happier wave that thinks it’s something special.
The root of all our problems, at all levels, is primarily based on the sense of disconnection.
Our efforts to self-improve is one of our problems. That automatically implies I’m not good enough now. Accept everything as it is without qualification, right now.
Alan Watkins – How to be brilliant (Emotions and feelings)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q06YIWCR2Js
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_fFattg8N0
We try to control and guide and direct from the neck up, when everything is driven from below the neck. We are putting our focus and beliefs in all the wrong places.
Our brain has it’s purpose and function. It’s good for making plans etc but it is limited and has no wisdom.
Facing (not avoiding) and feeling is the road to freedom.
When we block our pain, we block our joy aswell.
It’s a willingness to be what is. An attempt to escape is a road to nowhere. What you resist, persists.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. Suffering is a response to your attitude to what is happening.
All suffering is avoidable and unnecessary.
There’s what happened and the story we tell ourselves about ourselves about what happened.
Guilt is about what we’ve done or haven’t done, shame is about who we are and who we’re not.
Brene Brown resources on guilt, shame and vulnerability
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=psN1DORYYV0
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o
Vulnerability is a strength not a weakness.
Parenting: Treasure, welcome and validate our children completely regardless of anything ie academic or sporting success.
“Love is not love which alters it when alteration finds” – William Shakespeare
If everything is conditional ie praising your child when your child does the right thing, when they are obedient, when he/she is good. That is a breathing ground for insecurities. There is no greater unifier than unconditional acceptance.
Dr Shefali free masterclass: https://www.mindvalley.com/conscious-parenting/masterclass
The real issue is not that you are inadequate, the real issue is that you are conditioned into believing that you need to be something. If you can let go of that belief in order to be ok to be acceptable and loveable. Forget about feeling inadequate, forget about not being enough. Realise that your just being is enough.